THE BLAME GAME

Blaming yourself about things you cannot change will not change anything at all. Sounds a bit confusing I know, but the bottom line is not to blame yourself for situations you know nothing about.

Many times we find ourselves playing what I would call the blame game. Blaming yourself for situations you know nothing about; situations you did not contribute in and situations created by someone else. For example, many people blame themselves for divorced parents or parents undergoing a divorce settlement. You did not contribute to that situation, you are part of it but do not blame yourself for it. It is not your fault. Your life can easily be messed up because of the blame game.
Things are bound to go wrong at some point in your life; either with people you love; your job; your health; your financial state and plans you have towards reaching your goals among many other things. It is important however, to never put the blame on yourself. Of course, own up to mistakes you make along the way. Just never allow them to put you down and blame yourself for long.

I am not suggesting that it is easy to just ignore your challenges, but the least you can do is motivate yourself towards the most important things in your life. People in your life; the things you want to achieve in life; where you see yourself in the next couple of years and on things that make life more interesting and worth living.

Consider putting a smile on your face over a permanent frown. Remember against all odds will forever be against all odds. Make a choice to break the chain of anger in your life; the chain of divorce in your family, it can and should stop with you; break the chain of financial problems by planning properly; be happy by breaking the chain of constant frustration and be open to love, of yourself mainly and others. Do not use your negative family history or mistakes you have made in the past to justify what happens to you. Break the chain of unhappiness, you can do it! No one else can. I have been constantly reminding myself that I have to strive to be better than what my parents where (not that they had an unhappy life). To be a better than they were and a better individual than I was yesterday.

“Stress is a defeated man’s excuse to face reality and work at making things better”